My favorite scripts from “The Gay Guys Guide to Love” by Ken Hanes

First of all. BELIEVE. Love is possible. Even J. Edward Hoover had a boyfriend
Love is not open-heart surgery, though it can feel like it sometimes. Lighten up.
Stop making excuses. Stop blaming others. All men are not creeps. The good ones are not all taken. You’re not the only decent, single gay guy left on the entire planet.
Being single is not a fault, so no mea culpa self-flagellation. Besides, most guys don’t find bruises physical or emotional-too attractive.
Love is an emotion, not a game. If you want to play a game, try five-card stud. You can bluff to your heart’s desire without giving the other guy heartache.
Soften up a little. If your skin is too tough, Cupid’s arrow will bounce right off.
Don’t fall for these despicable, pernicious, malevolent, heinous, and generally wacko myths about gay love:
Myth: Gay love is wrong.
Reality: Love is love—gay, non-gay, or in between. Don’t let parents, priests, politicians, the press, or your psyche tell you differently.
Myth: Gay relationship threatens family values.
Reality: One, plenty do last. The world is filled with gay couples who have been together twenty, thirty, forty, or more years. Two, the only thing gay males couples are constitutionally unable to do the same as heterosexual couples is to have babies.
Postscript to the above myth. Pardon a little ranting: When straight couple’s relationship fails, it’s because of his/her drinking, inability to commit, infidelity, and so on. In other words, a straight couple’s relationship fails because of personal flaws, not because its participants are heterosexual. But when gay relationship fails, “they” say it’s because gay relationship inherently can’t work. Call this double standard what is: a crock of homophobic crap. End of rant.
Sure, you have an Ideal Physical Type. But types are fantasies, and solid love must be grounded in reality and compatibility. Expecting reality to measure up to your fantasy is a recipe for disaster. So don’t allow your ideal physical type to limit you.